Snittens wrote:
> I just popped in here to lurk. Hope it's OK/appropriate that I post.
If
> not, I apologize.
> My twins (via IVF) are almost 11 months old. We were fairly serious
about
> adoption, working our way through the application packet, when we
decided to
> pursue IVF. I still feel called (I guess that would be the right word)
to
> adoption. DH and I have spoken hypothetically about having another
child,
> as an "if", not a "when" at this point. I am still undecided myself,
but am
> leaning towards wanting another at some point, and definitely adopting.
For
> a number of reasons, I do not wish to go through IVF again. I am also
> thinking about when would be a good time, as far as the ages of my girls
and
> what may be going on in my life. Part of me can't even imagine going
> through another newborn stage, I feel like I am just now recovering from
> that. But I also would like to experience a singleton newborn to see
what
> "normal" (if there is any!) is like. Another part of me thinks I am
crazy
> and why in the world would I even be contemplating another child? DH
and I
> haven't really talked about this yet, we have a lot going on at the
moment.
> So, this is all really just "what ifs" in my head.
I think that's a great place to start, Kelly! "What if" may turn into
"never" or it may turn into a baby! You just never know until you
explore it further. And I *so* relate to not knowing if or when it
might be a good time. Is there ever a good time to add another child
to the family? At least we have the adoption option, and for that I am
thankful! I, too, have so many "what ifs" floating around in my head.
I really want J to have a sib - but I'm just not sure I am strong
enough to do it again. And the clock ticks on....
One good thing about adoption is you don't have the exhaustion of
pregnancy and birth to deal with. The babies come pre-packaged in
Carter's and that's an awesome benefit! ;)
> Anyway, nice to see you Lyn! The girls are big enough to wear the
****rts
> you sent when they were born now. :) They look really cute in them.
No way! I will sneak over to a.i.parenting and see if I can find a
link to pics. :)
-L.
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