lhotard79@[EMAIL PROTECTED]
wrote:
> I hope we are done settling hard feelings for a while. People who come
> here need sup****t, not fighting. At the risk of sounding corny, I hope
> we can be there for each other. I know that the group sup****t and
> advice has been helpful to me and I really appreciate it, because I
> don't get sup****t from people in real life.
>
> My MIL, keeps mentioning what if something is wrong with my foster kid
> or baby I adopt. Would that mean she wouldn't love my biological child
> if it had a problem? My mom keeps telling me to be careful and I may
> get hurt. All I want to hear is that they sup****t me.
>
> Lisa
Hugs, Lisa. My MIL used to imply that any child we adopted might "turn
out badly" by telling us of people she knew who had adopted and how
badly their kids turned out, blah, blah, blah. After politely
listening to her, I began listing all of the people in history I could
think of who were great successes--from Moses to Dave Thomas, founder
of the Wendy's fast food restaurants, etc. She got the hint, I guess
and shut up about it. After Mick was born and came home, she was one
of the first people at our house for his homecoming and proudly held
her grandson. She's always showing him off whenever we visit her at
her retirement home. I think part of the problem is that the only
media coverage that adoption seems to get is the sensationalized cases
of disrupted adoptions and so people are lead to believe that this
happens with great frequency than it really does.
good luck, Lisa
lisa
micksmom
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