Kathy,
Have a good trip. I look forward to continuing this conversation.
--
Jamie
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out the doooo-oooo-ooor!
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disappear and she says, "Cheese" on command. Although it sounds more like
"eeeeeesssshhh"!
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<Meagan787@[EMAIL PROTECTED]
> wrote in message
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>
> Top Posting:
>
> I returned briefly this evening to see if anyone was trying to speak
> for me again and then I saw your post. If you are being sincere, I'll
> give you the benefit of the doubt and think about the questions you
> asked of me in the next few days or so.
>
> I will going out of town, and don't feel like I could give you a fair
> shot at your questions or participate in a positive exchange of words
> with you until later next week.
>
> Until then, hopefully, no one will try and speak for me, and we can
> discuss this more.
>
> Honestly, I am for most adoptive mothers everywhere, despite what some
> here would have you believe. If you don't believe me, you'll need to
> visit the adoption forum, especially the adoption debate board where an
> entire triad posts together almost on a daily basis.
>
> My dil is suffering from primary infertility and I am trying to learn
> more about this disease, hence why I usually lurk. IF I see something
> said about adoption, I may speak up, but I assure you, I am no troll.
>
> But I digress, if you would like to review the last thread where my
> words were taken completely out of context before I post back to you
> next week, you will see that before this twit, *C* got all hysterical
> and decided to twist my words, I said, ...and I will say again that
> first mother does not mean second mother is any less significant. And
> if you will google first mother as it relates to relinquishment today,
> it is a current term. Women should be able to label themselves without
> being put down or categorized a certain way.
> Blech with the positive adoption language, most women who relinquish
> feel they are so much more than a woman who gave birth. The child has
> two mothers, one no less than the other. The sooner both mothers
> recognize this, the better it will be for the child. Note I did not say
> both mothers should parent. I believe once an adoption is iron clad,
> the adoptive parents hold the cards.
>
> In closing, no one can tell another what they are, and if my saying
> adoptive mothers were second to first, or second best, this surely was
> not my intention. In fact I wrote just the opposite, that they are both
> im****tant to the adoptee.
>
> When I said a person who puts adoption LAST is a first mother's worst
> nightmare, it means the mother it does not sit right with me. While
> those who suffer from infertility need to be on their own time tables
> to grieve, I don't think it is a good idea to go into adoption still
> longing to birth. And that is what I meant by a nightmare for the
> baby's first mom. The loss has to be grieved in order for the baby's
> best interests to be served.
>
> See you next week.
>
> Kathy
> mother reunited 10-17-97
>
>
> Jamie Clark wrote:
>> Oh lord. Your post didn't start a flame war. You're welcome to
continue
>> posting here. You haven't posted anything out of the ordinary. That
>> someone else posted in the thread that you started, in an inflammatory
>> way
>> is not your fault, nor a reflection on you.
>>
>> Carry on as usual.
>> --
>>
>> Jamie
>> Earth Angels:
>> Taylor Marlys, 1/3/03 -- Who's got the Christmas spirit, singing all
day
>> long, "You put one foot in front of the other, and soon you'll be
walking
>> out the doooo-oooo-ooor!
>> Addison Grace, 9/30/04 -- My Little Ham, who smiles so big her eyes
>> disappear and she says, "Cheese" on command. Although it sounds more
>> like
>> "eeeeeesssshhh"!
>>
>> Check out the family! -- www.MyFamily.com, User ID: Clarkguest1,
>> Password:
>> Guest
>> Become a member for free - go to Add Member to set up your own User ID
>> and
>> Password
>>
>> "FlowerGal74" <flowergal74@[EMAIL PROTECTED]
> wrote in message
>> news:1138473617.434703.63040@[EMAIL PROTECTED]
>> >I didnt know my post was going to start a flame war, and Im very sorry
>> > it did. I wont be posting here any longer.
>> >
>> > Thanks to all the girls who helped! You know who you are.
>> >
>> > Vicki
>> >
>
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