Re: What is the first step in adoption?

I was talking about being forced into thinking about one's fertility at
all.
For some fortunates, pregnancy happens exactly when they want it to. For
some others, still fortunate, it happens when you weren't expecting, but
isn't a huge, life-shattering catastrophe (like my first pregnancy was) .
I
would think very, very, very few little girls grow into womanhood and
analyze all the possibilities of life and fertility and infertility, and
plot out our feelings about each possibility.

Until we are backed into the corner of IF (as I was later) , most of us
never think about it. And the journey through the feelings is intensely
personal and individual and must be taken at one's own pace.

To be so angry and ugly in response to honest soul-searching and
questions,
you must really still have some issues about your situation. Sorry about
that.  But try to get a grip. Jeez.


Holly
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> Holly Sox wrote:
> > I'm pretty sure she means she's a birth mother. Please be aware that
not
> > all of us feel that way. Vicki, I've been following your posts on aip
and
> > here, and don't think you're taking it lightly at all. IF and adoption
are
> > HUGE issues that most of us never consider until we are forced into
it.
>
> What do you mean by *forced into it*?  Like last resort?
>
> If so, Blech.  Being a parent is not an entitlement.
>
> Kathy
> first mother
>
> You
> > need to work through all your feelings about all of it, and the
financial
> > stuff doesn't make it any easier.
> >
> > (((((Vicki))))))
> >
> > Holly
> >
> >
> >
> > "Carola" <carola@[EMAIL PROTECTED]
> wrote in message
> > news:43bfad71$0$5863$dbd49001@[EMAIL PROTECTED]
> > > On 2006-01-06 23:31:34 +0100, Meagan787@[EMAIL PROTECTED]
 said:
> > >
> > > >
> > > > FlowerGal74 wrote:
> > > >> My dh and I are seeing an RE right now, and we dont even know
what
a
> > > >> course of treatment/action will be yet.  We've thought about
adopti
on,
> > > >> but I kind of want it to be our last step.  Know what I mean?>
> > > >
> > > >
> > > >
> > > > You are every first mother's worst nightmare.
> > > >
> > > >
> > > >
> > > >
> > > >   Im just
> > > >> curious about how you found an agency.  Did you look it up on the
> > > >> internet?  I want to be very informed, on all of our decisions we
will
> > > >> have to make.  If treatment doesnt work for us,  and Im hoping
thats a
> > > >> very big IF, we dont want to take this lightly
> > > >
> > > > What an understatement; taking it lightly.
> > > >
> > > > Kathy
> > > > First Mom
> > > >
> > > >
> > > >>
> > > >> Vicki
> > >
> > > Kathy,
> > >
> > > What do you mean by "first mom"?
> > >
> > > Carola
> > >
> > >
>