Re: What is the first step in adoption?

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> Munchkin wrote:
>> <Meagan787@[EMAIL PROTECTED]
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>> > Munchkin wrote:
>> >> <Meagan787@[EMAIL PROTECTED]
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>> >> > FlowerGal74 wrote:
>> >> >> My dh and I are seeing an RE right now, and we dont even know
what 
>> >> >> a
>> >> >> course of treatment/action will be yet.  We've thought about 
>> >> >> adoption,
>> >> >> but I kind of want it to be our last step.  Know what I mean?>
>> >> >
>> >> >
>> >> >
>> >> > You are every first mother's worst nightmare.
>> >> >
>> >> >
>> >> >
>> >> >
>> >> >  Im just
>> >> >> curious about how you found an agency.  Did you look it up on the
>> >> >> internet?  I want to be very informed, on all of our decisions we

>> >> >> will
>> >> >> have to make.  If treatment doesnt work for us,  and Im hoping 
>> >> >> thats a
>> >> >> very big IF, we dont want to take this lightly
>> >> >
>> >> > What an understatement; taking it lightly.
>> >> >
>> >> > Kathy
>> >> > First Mom
>> >> >
>> >> >
>> >>
>> >>
>> >> ((((((((((((((((((Kathy))))))))))))))))))
>> >>
>> >> Hugs, Sweetie.  You are such a brave and courageous woman.  I am
sorry
>> >> you
>> >> took offence to Vicki's post, I do not think she intended to offend,

>> >> she
>> >> just maybe worded things wrong.  Bless you, Dear, and take good care

>> >> of
>> >> yourself.
>> >>
>> >> ~C
>> >>
>> >
>> > I'm not offended in the least.  And please don't patronize me.  You
>> > haven't a clue as to what I am.  Your hugs are not necessary.
>> >
>> > It is bothersome when I see someone so DESPERATE for a bio baby of
>> > their own, and think of adoption as the last resort.  And Vicki's
post
>> > does set off red flags.
>> >
>> > Kathy
>> > first mom
>> >
>>
>>
>> Kathy, no one is patronizing you.  Maybe you need to seek some 
>> counseling.>
>
> LMAO!
>
>> You come across as very angry towards anyone on the other end of 
>> adoption. >
>
> How pathetic.  LOL!
>
>
>> Most adoption agencies out there will give you free counseling if you 
>> cannot
>> afford it.  I am sure that talking about your issues with being a birth

>> mom
>> will help you to heal.  Its not adoptive parents faults, or anyone
elses,
>> that you chose to place a child.  That was your decision, and one that 
>> you
>> need to deal with and live with.  You seem to be harbouring way too
much
>> anger.  Neither Vicki or anyone else here did you any wrong.>
>
>
> Hahahahahaha.   Honestly, you haven't a clue what I am feeling, but
> continue on with your
> typical blathering.
>
>
>>
>> When someone like Vicki asks questions, she is sincere.  Would you
rather
>> she lie?
>
>
> No, I'd rather she be honest, and stop thinking she is entitled to
> parent and work on her fertility issues before she adopts.  Would you
> rather I sugar coat the reasons why I feel this way.
>
>
> The reality is, every adoptive parent who has suffered infertility
>> is desperate for a bio baby.
>
> Then, get a puppy.
> And how dare you speak for ALL adoptive parents.  Many do not feel as
> you do.
>
> For many, adoption is their last resort.  It
>> was not mine, but that is just my scenario, not someone else's.
>>
>> Just for the record, my child is adopted, and he is my own.
>>
>> ~C
>
> Oh dear.
>
> Kathy
> First mom
>

So I am to assume, that adopted children should be treated differently,
and 
not thought of or considered to be wholly part of a family?  You sound
like 
an idiot.  You obviously take issue with how your placed child was raised.

Maybe you should have raised him yourself.

Yes, most people who suffer infertility want a bio child.  If they didn't,

they mostlikely don't want any child.  Ugh.

You, my dear, are an adoptive parent's worst nightmare.  Get some help.

Do you understand, that when you signed away your parental rights, you no 
longer became your child's legal mother?  Do you know, that when his 
adoptive parents finalized his adoption, they became his legal parents? 
Do 
you understand that?  Maybe it was never explained to you.  His adoptive 
parents are his legal mother and father.  You gave up every right to that 
child.  His adoptive parents are his parents, he is THEIR child.  You have

no claim to him.  Ever.  Just stating the facts.

~C


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>> >> >> Vicki
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