Re: What is the first step in adoption?

Munchkin wrote:
> <Meagan787@[EMAIL PROTECTED]
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> > Munchkin wrote:
> >> <Meagan787@[EMAIL PROTECTED]
> wrote in message
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> >> > Carola wrote:
> >> >> On 2006-01-06 23:31:34 +0100, Meagan787@[EMAIL PROTECTED]
 said:
> >> >>
> >> >> >
> >> >> > FlowerGal74 wrote:
> >> >> >> My dh and I are seeing an RE right now, and we dont even know
what
> >> >> >> a
> >> >> >> course of treatment/action will be yet.  We've thought about
> >> >> >> adoption,
> >> >> >> but I kind of want it to be our last step.  Know what I mean?>
> >> >> >
> >> >> >
> >> >> >
> >> >> > You are every first mother's worst nightmare.
> >> >> >
> >> >> >
> >> >> >
> >> >> >
> >> >> >   Im just
> >> >> >> curious about how you found an agency.  Did you look it up on
the
> >> >> >> internet?  I want to be very informed, on all of our decisions
we
> >> >> >> will
> >> >> >> have to make.  If treatment doesnt work for us,  and Im hoping
> >> >> >> thats a
> >> >> >> very big IF, we dont want to take this lightly
> >> >> >
> >> >> > What an understatement; taking it lightly.
> >> >> >
> >> >> > Kathy
> >> >> > First Mom
> >> >> >
> >> >> >
> >> >> >>
> >> >> >> Vicki
> >> >>
> >> >> Kathy,
> >> >>
> >> >> What do you mean by "first mom"?
> >> >>
> >> >> Carola
> >> >
> >> > Every adoptee has two mothers.  A first and a second.
> >> >
> >> > Get it?
> >> >
> >> > Kathy
> >> >
> >>
> >> Some of us adoptive moms see it as, birth mom is the birth mom,
> >> biological
> >> mom, and adoptive moms are the adoptive moms.  No first and second.
> >>
> >> Get it?
> >>
> >> ~C
> >
> > It doesn't bother me in the least how you see it.  Someone asked what
a
> > first mother is, and I explained it.  It doesn't take rocket
> > scientology to figure out that every adoptee has two mothers; first
and
> > second. Even my son, the adoptee, gets it.  Go figure.
> >
> > Kathy
> > first mother
> >
>
> The person who asked what a first mother was, does not speak English as
a
> first language.  These groups are global.  She may not have understood
it
> clearly, as she is used to the term "birth mother."
>
> ~C

If she can write English, surely she knows what first and second means.
 One doesn't diminish the im****tance of the other.  Too bad you seem to
view it that way.  

Kathy
First mom