Re: What is the first step in adoption?

<Meagan787@[EMAIL PROTECTED]
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> Munchkin wrote:
>> <Meagan787@[EMAIL PROTECTED]
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>> > Carola wrote:
>> >> On 2006-01-06 23:31:34 +0100, Meagan787@[EMAIL PROTECTED]
 said:
>> >>
>> >> >
>> >> > FlowerGal74 wrote:
>> >> >> My dh and I are seeing an RE right now, and we dont even know
what 
>> >> >> a
>> >> >> course of treatment/action will be yet.  We've thought about 
>> >> >> adoption,
>> >> >> but I kind of want it to be our last step.  Know what I mean?>
>> >> >
>> >> >
>> >> >
>> >> > You are every first mother's worst nightmare.
>> >> >
>> >> >
>> >> >
>> >> >
>> >> >   Im just
>> >> >> curious about how you found an agency.  Did you look it up on the
>> >> >> internet?  I want to be very informed, on all of our decisions we

>> >> >> will
>> >> >> have to make.  If treatment doesnt work for us,  and Im hoping 
>> >> >> thats a
>> >> >> very big IF, we dont want to take this lightly
>> >> >
>> >> > What an understatement; taking it lightly.
>> >> >
>> >> > Kathy
>> >> > First Mom
>> >> >
>> >> >
>> >> >>
>> >> >> Vicki
>> >>
>> >> Kathy,
>> >>
>> >> What do you mean by "first mom"?
>> >>
>> >> Carola
>> >
>> > Every adoptee has two mothers.  A first and a second.
>> >
>> > Get it?
>> >
>> > Kathy
>> >
>>
>> Some of us adoptive moms see it as, birth mom is the birth mom, 
>> biological
>> mom, and adoptive moms are the adoptive moms.  No first and second.
>>
>> Get it?
>>
>> ~C
>
> It doesn't bother me in the least how you see it.  Someone asked what a
> first mother is, and I explained it.  It doesn't take rocket
> scientology to figure out that every adoptee has two mothers; first and
> second. Even my son, the adoptee, gets it.  Go figure.
>
> Kathy
> first mother
>

The person who asked what a first mother was, does not speak English as a 
first language.  These groups are global.  She may not have understood it 
clearly, as she is used to the term "birth mother."

~C