I don't know. Do you think you are capable of falling in love with this
child, then giving him up? The hard part about MOST foster situations is
that the focus and goal is to reunite the child with the bio parents, who
can be pretty questionable, which is why CPS took the child in the first
place, you know? There are also situations where from the get-go they
know
that the child will be available for adoption, and sooner than a situation
where they are constantly trying to reunite. So it would depend on the
baby's "back" story. If the baby was abandoned and is basically available
to adopt (it would be considered fost-to-adopt) then I'd say go for it.
If
it's more of a conventional foster situation, I probably would decline.
I think if you and your dh both feel capable of giving this child a good
home on a tem****ary basis, and understand that you could be caring for
this
child for a long time, up to a year maybe and it could still be considered
tem****ary, then it's worth investigating, and possibly doing. You would
know in your hearts that this child received the best care and the most
love
possible during his stay, and hopeful that will help him grow up to be the
best person he can be, regardless of whether or not he stays with you.
Whether or not you actually do this, I think it's a great thing to
explore.
There are no right or wrong answers, and it may help you make a decision
about adoption, or your timeframes.
Good luck. Keep us in the loop.
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<lhotard79@[EMAIL PROTECTED]
> wrote in message
news:1135030076.022020.78080@[EMAIL PROTECTED]
> Hi everyone.
>
> I usually post at ai primary, but a situation has come up that I'm not
> sure if I can post about there. A friend of my husband just adopted a
> young child and they called him needing a foster home/possible adoption
> for a 3 week old baby boy. His friend is working on refering us to his
> social worker so we can see about taking it in. Do you think this is a
> good idea? or would it be too much possible heartbreak?
>
> I'm not really in belief that this could actually work out, but I
> figure it's worth a shot. Dh and I have been trying a year and a half
> and I recently had to start treatment for endometriosis. We haven't
> "committed" to adoption as a possibility yet, but have not ruled it out
> yet either.
>
> I would just like to know everyone's thoughts. I will post more
> information as soon as possible, but will try not to get excited.
> Thanks.
>
> Lisa
>
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